EXPECTATIONS

A Creative Commentary

By

David A. Archer

02/15/1968

11/01/2006

So I find in adult hood the results of some social reduction of sorts.

It seems to be the greatest aspiration for a man in the modern day... that is, almost even the only acceptable path in life's course and especially in regard to the pursuit of significant companionship, that a mans only place and pre-requisite toward such means and ends, is to want nothing more than a warm place to wipe his ass and a cold place to keep his beer.

Anything else beyond such concerns is somehow seen as an offensive to the "importance" of women. At least such is the common and promoted attitude in most circles of social interaction.

I find this incredibly offensive in many ways. The first being that I am expected to patronize females in such a manner. It is expected of me, as a male, to blow smoke up their "posterior" and address them as some "faction" beyond my comprehension.

Why is it that a person should be required to insult themselves and people they may be interested in a substantial existence with?

This I suppose is as result of the more extreme measures left over from the all too celebrated "battle of the sexes" and the grotesque amount of popularity such a pseudo social movement meant to spur sales and create confusion gained, with the help of the modern media and those benefiting from the direction and result of it.

I do acknowledge the brilliance in the marketing aspects of such a design... but really, where is it that people lost control and insight into the design of it? Where is it that the majority of people actually embodied it as some decision making process behind the blatantly obvious results of selling more T.V. dinners and dragging down more television ratings?

It is no less than an incredible surprise to me, that I am not only expected to want nothing more from life and relationships than the simple amenities mentioned previously - leaving all other aspects of domesticated (and even other) life, to the "importance" of the female. Further, that I am supposed to acknowledge such as "empowering" females through becoming a parody of humanity. As if I am expected to emulate and parody a promoted (and none too true) density in the male population - not to mention a social illness that truly benefits only a few.

I was raised in the land of gun toting females.

I have worked in the midst of self proclaimed "hard line feminists." Most being lesbians and rather pronounced in some rather questionable extremes of opinion - in my opinion.

I can tell you from experience that the "gun toting," self sufficient females I grew up around would have nothing of the very noticeable aspects of insult within the designed "empowerment" which is common in the "extreme" examples of the more urban "feminist." Being the mandatory "patronization" aspects of modern co-existence.

To insist that a person "blow sunshine up someones ass" is in no way respect, and further has little to do with equality, much less perceived importance.

Admittedly, there are some rather entertaining and even enjoyable aspects to the more contrived version... being that ever popular attitude a man is supposed to embody for instance, of meat headed, beer swilling excuse of some sort. But, when it really counts... and people are looking for genuine results... I suppose I could say that "I am sticking to my guns" so to speak.

The manufactured versions, and all of the peripheral efforts they entail to maintain some perceived superiority.. are really nothing more than that and sadly more of a damge in the long run, than the benefits of instant gratification could possibly be in the shorter.

I realize that just about anyone can be swayed with promotion and propaganda in various forms. But at the core value- At the very essence of the progressive relationship between men and women... the consistency is un-alterable. There is "rivalry" but not rivalry as we know it... in the way that we acknowledge it within the promoted versions of modern existence. From my perspective, it is a healthy co-existence that is the optimum.

Anything else is despotism and demise. Especially if "everything" is somehow limited to nothing more than what amounts to frivolous versions of competition meant to set relationships on the ground of; "me, against you, against everything else, maybe - unless I find a better option".... instead of perhaps; "me and you against whatever is dumb enough to mess with us.... as we entertain ourselves with whatever my arise as competative nature between us"... and better yet; "me and you against whatever is dumb enough to find themselves involved with our personal dysfunctions.....

Besides, I can still out cook most of the more urban females.....

And I could still probably out shoot most of the others, anyway!

But really, who's counting?